Women are creating the "woman cave" for some quiet time

A quaint bonus room sits off to the side of Laura and Colby Clark's bedroom. But it's an "invitation only" room when it comes to children and the husband. "She had a space off of her bedroom that she wanted to make her home. So what we did was make it an office slash sitting room. So not only can she work when she needs to, check her voicemails and emails, she can sit down and read a book," said Dana Wolter.

Dana Wolter is an interior decorator. She says women like Laura have called her with this type of request. Not only do they want their dining and living areas decorated, they want a calming space for themselves. "Life is hectic, whether you work outside of the home or inside of the home. And you want to have a space of your own that you can relax and retreat to.and it doesn't have to be an entire room. Just a little corner you can make your own," said Wolter.

Psychiatrist, Vivian Friedman, says women have traditionally found ways to make a space their own. Even a kitchen could be transformed into a sanctuary. "It was their domain. I can remember not going into my mother's kitchen except with permission at certain times of the day," said Friedman.

Friedman says most women enjoy motherhood and wont need a lot of time away from their children. But at times when they do, guilt may keep them from taking it. "Men tend to take the time. They'll go play golf or go out for a drink. They don't feel as guilty about the time they take. Women are more torn when they take time for themselves," she says.

That's why Wolter says it's important to include family photos when decorating a special place. That way women can enjoy the quiet time they desperately need sometimes, and still have a reminder of the people they love. "It's very important to have a place where you can relax and decompress because life is crazy and you go and go. Everybody needs a little bit of down time. No doubt about it," said Wolter.

Wolter says, with a few calming colors and a comfy chair, even a small corner can be transformed into relaxing space.

Dr. Friedman offers one other bit of advice. She says if you{} never feel happy being around your husband and children, you may want to consider professional help.

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